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Is this website really, truly, 100% FREE?

Absolutely.  There is NO charge for using any and all features of this website.  Once you register selecting a username/password, you will IMMEDIATELY be given the highest membership possible.  It will NOT expire for at least 1 year.  You have instant access to ALL of the features of the website including sending messages, responding, knowing who read your email, etc.  I also intentionally am not having this website send you a confirming email message verifying whether your email is legitimate or not.  If you want to use a fake email address, be my guest.  However, you obviously will NOT be notified if/when you receive a message from somebody.

How is www.IdoNOTwantKids.com different from all of the other dating sites on the internet?

Geesh.  There are lots of reasons.  But let me give you a few of my favorites:

1.  This is the ONLY site on the planet that is 100% free and exclusively for those select few that do NOT have or want kids.  Quite frankly, the only reason I created this site is to try and find that special someone.  I don't know about you people, but I was having an incredibly difficult time finding ANYBODY that did not have or want kids.  I even met/communicated with virtually every matchmaking service in the country.  I received prices from several hundred to $25,000 for them to try and find a childfree match for me.  Long story short, I ended up creating this site myself. 

2.  I cut the bullshit.  As you will quickly discover, this system spends very little time on finding out trivial information like most other dating sites (i.e.  I couldn't care less if you like boating more than knitting.).  Indeed, I am a divorce attorney.  I have NEVER ever had anybody walk into my office and declare that they want a divorce because of a difference of hobbies or some other immaterial issue.  Instead, the vast majority of time the divorces are sought because of primarily three issues:  sex, money and kids.  Hence, these 3 particular issues are specifically addressed.

3.  This system REQUIRES you to answer sensitive questions involving sex, money and kids (for the reasons noted above).  If you do NOT answer these questions, this system will automatically put the following notice on your profile thereby basically defeating the entire point of you having a profile on this website since you are merely playing games and not seriously looking for somebody:

** BEWARE: THIS USER HAS NOT COMPLETED THEIR PROFILE. CHANCES ARE, IT IS SOMEBODY PLAYING GAMES/FAKE/BOT. UNTIL THEY COMPLETE THEIR PROFILE (BY CLICKING ON EDIT PROFILE), I WOULD NOT WASTE YOUR TIME. **

4.  You can even do a search based on a person's answers to these sensitive questions involving sex, money and kids.  For example, you can specifically search for not only the ordinary stuff like weight/height/etc, but more importantly, you can simultaneously search for a person that would have an abortion if they accidentally got pregnant, or for somebody that believes coupons are acceptable, or somebody that believes the female should pay a particular percentage of the time.

5.  This site is a work in progress.  It has quickly grown faster and larger than I had ever anticipated.  This is thanks to the constant feedback from the users (and my lack of a social life).  Hence, if YOU have a suggestion for the site, PLEASE do let me know.  Assuming I like it, and I can actually figure out a way to incorporate your suggestion, I will likely do so.

Why don't you delete those profiles of people who have not logged in for a long time?

I do realize some people haven't logged in for a long time.  However, I am intentionally leaving their profiles online. The concept is eventually somebody else will log in, see it, and then contact them. Here is the problem: www.IdoNOTwantKids.com needs a LOT more users... I constantly delete bullshit profiles every day. Ironically, however, I get several people every day that create a profile, look around and doesn't see enough profiles, and then deletes their own profile... this is dumb if you ask me. Instead, people should just leave their profile online (assuming they are single)... and eventually somebody else will see it, contact them, and the membership will grow.

I immediately delete bullshit profiles.. but I'm intentionally not deleting profiles of people who haven't logged in for ages. Why? Because I WANT them to create a profile and leave it there.. membership grows very sloooooooooooowly... but at least this way the profiles online are 100% legitimate even if they haven't logged in. Fact is: If/when somebody sees that profile, then that person will get an email, and THEN that person will log back in. There really isn't a huge need for people to log in frequently since, admittedly, membership grows very slowly -- ironically because users are deleting their own profiles every single day because they don't see enough people in their area. Anyway... that is the logic I'm using.

True story: I had a really cute girl create a profile.  She looked around, didn't see enough profiles, and then deleted her profile saying 'nobody in my area.' Later that very same day, a guy from the same state & town logged in and created a profile... their profiles were almost a perfect fit involving the money/kid issues... they would have made the perfect couple... but the guy also deleted his profile the same day saying 'not enough members'. You see my point? If they just left their profiles online, perhaps they would have met. And again, the site is 100% FREE. It actually costs ME money to run the site... so people should just leave the profiles online... and I certainly don't think I should go around deleting profiles just because they haven't logged in.. the fact is.. if the person took the time to answer the questions properly involving sex, money & kids, they are obviously serious legitimate users. Their profile deserves to remain online.. it costs nothing and potentially benefits everybody.

Why do you put "BS Loser" on my profile just because I don't upload a photo?  Perhaps I'm not comfortable uploading a photo and/or I don't have a camera.

I know you will NOT like me for saying this but if you can't upload a picture of what you look like, then do NOT use www.IdoNOTwantKids.com.  Seriously.  This is a dating site.  Like it or not, the FIRST thing people "look" at is "looks."  Who are we kidding?  Furthermore, if you don't feel comfortable uploading a photo then you certainly won't feel comfortable answering the probing questions involving sex, money and kids.  And if you don't feel comfortable doing that stuff, then www.IdoNOTwantKids.com definitely is NOT the site for you.  Quite frankly, there are tons of other dating sites available.  Use one of those instead.  I created www.IdoNOTwantKids.com for the rare few (like myself) who are VERY serious about finding that special someone and not spending day/weeks/months online playing games.

I really hope your site is for real...  Is it real?  Do you charge ANYTHING to use this site?  Is this REALLY only for CHILDFREE people?

Oh yes.  Its 100% Real.  NO BS.  No cost.  You'll see.  I'm not playing games.  I simply created it because I CANNOT find any childfree places for singles.. so I ended up creating one.. It actually costs me money to run the site.. but no big deal.

Have you seen the profile of user "***"?  This person
isn't looking for a real relationship.. but someone to pay half of everything, yet not share assets, but be prepared to service him whenever he wants...  Is this a NO BS dating site...  or  a hook up site for people who don't want kids?  Are you promoting  this kind of propositioning on your site?
This website, IdoNOTwantKids.com, is created for singles who do NOT have or want kids.  Some people on here are looking for just sex (and their profiles specifically state that unlike most other sites where people can't even be honest about what they are looking for).  Other members on here, like myself, are looking for a real life-long monogamous relationship.  That simple.  Hence, neither person is necessarily right or wrong - they just want different things.
 
I constantly delete people who have BS profiles.  But as long as the person is honest, answers the questions and does NOT want/have kids, I'm certainly not going to delete their profile just because I don't agree with their philosophy on dating/relationships.  Heck,  have you seen my animation called "puzzele's dating etiquette abolition"?  99.99% of the world disagrees with my philosophy on dating, so does that mean I should delete my own profile also?  I think not.  Likewise, many women on this site specifically state that the guy should always pay for everything including vacations, etc.  I don't agree with that either, but does that mean I should delete the female's profile also?  I think not.  Quite simply, IdoNOTwantKids.com is the world's only bullshit free, childfree, dating site.  That simple.  Anyway, here is the link for my animation (that most people disagree with):

Can Canadians join and/or people from some other country?

Everybody can join.  At the moment, most users are from the USA.  But so what.. its free.  I suggest you create a profile even if there are very very few people from your country, or your state or your town.  Its free!!  Just leave your profile online.. and perhaps somebody will create a profile after yours..  I CONSTANTLY see people create a profile and then delete it because there aren't enough people in their area -- and then -- I see a new user from the same exact area do the same thing a day or two later.  How ironic?  They just missed each other.  Had the first person left their profile online, they might have met their match!  Again, the site is 100% free so why the heck not just create a profile and leave it online?  You've got nothing to lose.  Quite frankly, I don't really care if people delete their profiles or not...  I don't make a penny from this site.  I'm simply just trying to help and point out an obvious snafu that I repeatedly see.

Do we have to post photos of ourselves? (I work in the public service sector and may lose my job if identified on here)

Sort of, yes. You should definitely have a photo.  If you don't, you will not get deleted.. but you will have the automatic BS label put on your profile.  However, I suggest you simply explain in your profile why you are unable to post a photo and that you are not playing games.. that will help remedy the situation as most folks will understand the justification for you not posting a photo. 

What ages do you have? (I don't want to be pursued by teenagers or senior citizens)

All ages are allowed on www.IdoNOTwantKids.com from 18 years old and up.  Again.  The site is 100% free.  Who knows who will pursue you.  And who cares.  You never know unless you try. 

What is your quality control on instant approval/new users?

Absolutely none.  IdoNOTwantKids.com gives immediate access after a profile is created.  However, BS profiles are generally ranked and/or deleted shortly thereafter.  Likewise, users can report other BS users so its only an amount of time before the BS profile gets found/deleted.  Furthermore, users can rate a users profile utilizing the "bullshit meter."  
Please forgive my skepticism but is this really a NO KIDS,  no Bullshit site?

I 100% understand about your skepticism.  But you can relax.  IdoNOTwantKids.com REALLY is a CHILDFREE site that is 100% free that has a zero tolerance for bullshit profiles.  Hence, I humbly suggest you simply create a profile and use the site.  You have nothing to lose.  Its free!

How do I change my email address or password?

You can change your email address on the "edit your profile" page. Here you can change some other information including search preferences, address and other preferences about your daily routines, habits, hobbies etc.

After you've made your changes, click "Save" at the bottom of the page to save.  You CANNOT change your username. 

When someone emails me, where does the email go and how do I respond?

When a member sends you a note, it goes straight into your onsite message Inbox. We then send an email to your personal email address to let you know that it's there.

To read the note, simply login to the site and go to your Inbox. If you decide to write back, simply click "reply", write your own note and send away. Your note will go straight into the member's onsite Inbox, and we'll let them know it's there with an email to their personal email address.

All communications with other members stay onsite so that you never have to give out any personal information until you feel completely ready. Then when you are, you can exchange phone numbers and even meet in person.

How do I edit my profile?

To update your profile, click "Edit Profile" in Members Panel menu. Be sure to save your changes at the bottom of the screen when you're done.

Try to put your best foot forward with at least one photo and snappy, detailed essays about your interests. The photo is key since most people feel more comfortable writing to members they can see. Try to stay positive in your essays and let the real you shine.

I HATE the graphics on www.IdoNOTwantKids.com.  Change the graphics!!

Thanks for your feedback. Ironically, I previously changed the graphics numerous times. I was receiving LOTS of complaints about how the graphics looked so I changed them. Now I receive lots of complaints that the old graphics were better. Hence, I now have a standing offer to the planet:

If somebody can make better graphics/improvements to the site, then PLEASE do so.
I even had the site randomly display different graphic themes to try and make everybody happy but I received complaints about that also since people were getting confused.  Since this the site is 100% free, and actually costs me money to run, I unfortunately don't have the financial wherewithal to hire people to make the site how every person wants it.  Nonetheless, if somebody out here is familiar with php/websites/etc, then PLEASE do feel free to make contributions to the site.