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Submitted by
Name: Roger
Subject: Chicago
Name: Roger
Subject: Chicago
Comments:
Ok, LOVE the site ...but HATE when I'm doing the super duper member search to have to scroll down past places like Fiji and Saint Kitts to get to the United States! Please put the countries with the most members at the VERY TOP of the list (say United States, Canada, and UK) so we do not have to scroll down through hundreds of no name places that most likely will never have any! Just my 2 cents worth Regards, Roger
Ok, LOVE the site ...but HATE when I'm doing the super duper member search to have to scroll down past places like Fiji and Saint Kitts to get to the United States! Please put the countries with the most members at the VERY TOP of the list (say United States, Canada, and UK) so we do not have to scroll down through hundreds of no name places that most likely will never have any! Just my 2 cents worth Regards, Roger
Added: July 1, 2009
Submitted by
Name: Beth
Name: Beth
Comments:
Chris,
Yes, I cared enough to find you on your website and find your name... I'm am not a robot. Up until this point I was undecided about having kids. If anything, prior to this email, I was against having children. After going to your link, I think I DO want children for the following reasons:
1) I'm comfortable enough to accept the risk that comes with having a child in a relationship. (divorce, money problems, etc)
2) I feel confident enough in my gene pool to think it's worth it to continue
3) I will instill a sense of pride in my children so that they can go on to live happy and fulfilling lives with or without someone else in their life - be it children or spouse.
I don't think the reason you haven't found anyone is because all women want kids. I think its in your approach altogether. That conversation can and should wait until you've at least had some initial interaction with the person. Throwing your demands up as some form of a resume to fill a position is insulting. Granted, that's what these websites do initially, it hurts doubly to have to deal with a filtering process from a person instead of a computer.
How about you actually give a person a chance before you make a decision? What if you dated someone and took every precaution necessary and the girl got pregnant anyway? Does she have no choice in the matter of her body simply because you said you would date her only if she NEVER has children? So what? It's her decision to make. I'm pro-choice so don't think I'm a bible beater. In fact, I'm in the similar religious upbringing as you (dad's Jewish, mom's catholic)
Other than your insulting approach, I think we would have had a lot in common. Sorry to write you back... seeing as this is not your preferred method of communication. Take the lesson though if nothing else. Relationships are about compromise - not just all about what you want. Good luck in your search...
-Beth
Chris,
Yes, I cared enough to find you on your website and find your name... I'm am not a robot. Up until this point I was undecided about having kids. If anything, prior to this email, I was against having children. After going to your link, I think I DO want children for the following reasons:
1) I'm comfortable enough to accept the risk that comes with having a child in a relationship. (divorce, money problems, etc)
2) I feel confident enough in my gene pool to think it's worth it to continue
3) I will instill a sense of pride in my children so that they can go on to live happy and fulfilling lives with or without someone else in their life - be it children or spouse.
I don't think the reason you haven't found anyone is because all women want kids. I think its in your approach altogether. That conversation can and should wait until you've at least had some initial interaction with the person. Throwing your demands up as some form of a resume to fill a position is insulting. Granted, that's what these websites do initially, it hurts doubly to have to deal with a filtering process from a person instead of a computer.
How about you actually give a person a chance before you make a decision? What if you dated someone and took every precaution necessary and the girl got pregnant anyway? Does she have no choice in the matter of her body simply because you said you would date her only if she NEVER has children? So what? It's her decision to make. I'm pro-choice so don't think I'm a bible beater. In fact, I'm in the similar religious upbringing as you (dad's Jewish, mom's catholic)
Other than your insulting approach, I think we would have had a lot in common. Sorry to write you back... seeing as this is not your preferred method of communication. Take the lesson though if nothing else. Relationships are about compromise - not just all about what you want. Good luck in your search...
-Beth
Added: June 30, 2009
Submitted by
Name: happinessis
Name: happinessis
Comments:
Reason for cancelling: I think it is a very good idea of having a site for people who chose not to have children. I totally dismiss anyone who has children because I do not want to support anyone elses children. I just feel that the questions that are asked are way too personal. I think I will leave it up to God to find someone for me. I guess I need a single, never married professional, without children, Christian, attractive etc...
Reason for cancelling: I think it is a very good idea of having a site for people who chose not to have children. I totally dismiss anyone who has children because I do not want to support anyone elses children. I just feel that the questions that are asked are way too personal. I think I will leave it up to God to find someone for me. I guess I need a single, never married professional, without children, Christian, attractive etc...
Added: June 24, 2009
Submitted by
Name: Kim
Name: Kim
Comments:
Being honest with you. I canceled my membership. I felt there were a lot of personal questions that were asked.
Being honest with you. I canceled my membership. I felt there were a lot of personal questions that were asked.
Added: June 21, 2009
Submitted by
Name: Joeyd
Subject: NJ
Name: Joeyd
Subject: NJ
Comments:
I think this is a good site,a lot of guys don't want kids,its our choice.It's really friggin amazing how a lot you ladies get pissy faced because there are people on this planet that dont want kids.If your happy,great,I dont need kids to make me happy.I wont give up that freedom for anyone.Kid's are a big responsibilty,not for everyone.Some women try to push them on you.I've been down that road.It is not easy to find anyone these days that are'nt tied down with them,I have found some very good prospects,you look into their profiles further,guess what???They got kids,younger or older,they got 'em,or many women are single mom's, daddy hunting.Sorry,no thanks!
I think this is a good site,a lot of guys don't want kids,its our choice.It's really friggin amazing how a lot you ladies get pissy faced because there are people on this planet that dont want kids.If your happy,great,I dont need kids to make me happy.I wont give up that freedom for anyone.Kid's are a big responsibilty,not for everyone.Some women try to push them on you.I've been down that road.It is not easy to find anyone these days that are'nt tied down with them,I have found some very good prospects,you look into their profiles further,guess what???They got kids,younger or older,they got 'em,or many women are single mom's, daddy hunting.Sorry,no thanks!
Added: June 16, 2009
Submitted by
Name: Bee
Subject: Midwest
Name: Bee
Subject: Midwest
Comments:
I hope more men join this site. I have known since I was little that I would never want children. It's a personal choice. It doesn't mean I am messed up in the head or that I deserve to be lonely. I think it's a good thing that I know what I want/ don't want.
As for "Kate"...I'd like to punch you in the face.
I hope more men join this site. I have known since I was little that I would never want children. It's a personal choice. It doesn't mean I am messed up in the head or that I deserve to be lonely. I think it's a good thing that I know what I want/ don't want.
As for "Kate"...I'd like to punch you in the face.
Added: June 15, 2009
Submitted by
Name: Tanya
Name: Tanya
Comments:
keep doing what you are doing!!
Just giving you kudos for the site and wishing you luck!!
keep doing what you are doing!!
Just giving you kudos for the site and wishing you luck!!
Added: June 11, 2009
Submitted by
Name: Laura
Name: Laura
Comments:
Christopher;
Thank you for creating this site. I have been searching for something similar to this for quite a while without much luck. I was able to find dating sites, but found that they assumed if you did not want kids you did not want a relationship either. I am very thankful to find something like this on the internet.
Good luck finding your girl - will keep my eyes out for you.
Thanks again
Laura
Christopher;
Thank you for creating this site. I have been searching for something similar to this for quite a while without much luck. I was able to find dating sites, but found that they assumed if you did not want kids you did not want a relationship either. I am very thankful to find something like this on the internet.
Good luck finding your girl - will keep my eyes out for you.
Thanks again
Laura
Added: June 11, 2009
Submitted by
Name: Chris
Name: Chris
Comments:
To the female that is offended because she has kids..tough shit. It does not matter what "you have to offer", to a guy who does not want kids. Once you have them, you are nothing more than damaged goods to guys like us. Bottom line.
To the female that is offended because she has kids..tough shit. It does not matter what "you have to offer", to a guy who does not want kids. Once you have them, you are nothing more than damaged goods to guys like us. Bottom line.
Added: June 10, 2009
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Name: Former User
Reason for cancelling: Hi,
Thanks for creating this site. I'm cancelling because I've found someone...at least for now, and feel it's not right to leave my profile up. I met her completely randomly, rather than through the site. But your mission is right on. Good luck - if things don't work for me, I'll be back.
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